Harming Yourself

So when I ask if you are harming yourself, I don't necessarily mean cutting. You can be burning yourself, or punching yourself. When I say self harm, I mean, any type of physical damage you are causing to your body.

Im just going to jump right in. Why do you do this? Why do you feel the need to harm yourself? You are so much better. No one ever deserves this.

If youre being bullied, talk to someone you trust. I know it is really hard, because I have been bullied countless times, but when you tell someone, trust me, it will get better for you. Things will get easier.

Maybe its home problems though. Whatever you are having a problem with at home, confront your parents or guardians about it. You live in the house, and should get a say, and tell them what you are feeling, because hey may not even know.

Maybe social problems, or feeling like you just don't belong, and no one cares about you. I know this feeling very well. I used to think of myself as fat and ugly. I'm going to be honest, some times, I do still feel that way. But it has gotten a lot better. Once I told someone I got help. And then I stood up for myself, and became a little more social. I say a little more, because before I was very anxious about talking to new people. If you are in school, talk to a guidance counselor about how lonely you feel. I'm not saying you have to go right out there and say "I am harming myself," but if you did you would be saving yourself. But just talk about how you feel if you want, and they will help you.

Maybe you could tell a good friend? Someone who would understand.

Needless, harming yourself is not the way to go about solving things. My look at self harm is that sometimes, yes, it is for attention. But a lot of the times, stress just builds up so much, and life doesn't go the way it is supposed to, you feel like there is only one way to get rid of the stress.One thing that YOU can control.

Please tell someone so they can get you help. I know you may not want help, I didn't either. But you really deserve better.


I'm not going to make things peachy. If you are doing this to your body, there is consequences in the end.


Cutting- The most well known form of self harm. First off, cutting, will obviously leave long term scars. And who is to say that you wont accidently cut too deep. Then what? You just ended your life that you had ahead of you. They are also a gateway to many harmful infections and possibly disease  How you ask? Well if you don't clean what you are using thoroughly enough, or sometimes even if you do, you get infections. You could have to go to the doctors for medicine, or even in some more extreme cases, have wherever you are cutting amputated to stop the infection from spreading.  After a while of cutting, you eventually start to damage nerves and tendons, or blood vessels, making you go numb, in that place, or unable to feel that part of your body at all.


Overdose- Another very well known form of self harm. A lot of the times though, when you hear of people overdosing, you think suicidal. But not always. I know someone who overdosed and damaged their kidneys. Depending on how much you take, and what it is, your body could reject the pill, so after a little while, if you try to even swallow one for a simple headache, your body will reject the pill and it will come back up. There are long term affects too many internal organs. What if you had too go to the bathroom every ten minutes because you couldn't hold it? Sometimes the pill will damage your intestines, and you may need to go to the bathroom because you just cant hold it because you're damaged.

Burning- This is something I do not hear a lot about. But it is much like cutting. It leaves long term scars, but it could also leave you with third degree, second, or first degree burns, that are painful, and sometimes cause surgery. Or sometimes the burns just stay there and never fade out or go away. I feel like burning is a gateway to cutting. But this is my personal opinion. I burnt myself before I started cutting.

Head Banging- No something you hear of often but is actually very serious. Your skull is only so hard, and could crack. but the brain is fragile, and even if your skull doesn't crack, your brain could be damaged. Damages could be from anywhere from memory loss, to actually having real serious brain damage that is life threatening. Internal bleeding of the brain could also occur.


Damaging Yourself by hitting- So this is something you dont hear much about. Hitting yourself, or banging  a part of your body so hard that you bruise. This could cause broken bonnnes or worse.


So before you decide to hurt yourself, please think about the consequences  and know that you deserve better for your own sake.


I have decided to list some things you can do whenever you want to or think about harming yourself.


1)Put a rubber band on your wrist and snap it when you want to hurt yourself instead of hurting yourself.
2)Butterfly Challenge*
3)Write about how you feel in a journal.
4)Go outside and run until you are tired.
5)Call a friend
6)Do homework
7)Talk to your guardian/parents
8)Write a book
9)Write a song
10)Write a poem
11)Make your own secret language.
12)Run up and down stairs, screaming "I ENJOY EATING PINEAPPLES."
13)Make interesting cow noises.
14)Make funny faces at a stranger
15)Write someone a note.
16)CLEAN!!:D (Not very much fun for me)
17)Draw a picture
18) Draw a hippo
19)Draw a narwhal.
20)Wave your hands in the air like you just dont care.
21)Tune out the world with some music
22)Start singing a song and just keep singing until people get annoyed.
23) Go to where there is  conversation, and whenever the person says someones name, yell"POOP!"
24)Pretend you are a turtle.
25)Dance until your feet cant dance no more!
26)Ask random people how they are doing
27)Paint 
28)Pretend to be a bumblebee
29)Take a nice warm bath
30)If you have animals, talk to them about your problems.
31)Bake
32)Wear your underwear over your pants, and a towel aaround your neck, and pretend you are a super hero.
33)Pretend the floor is lava, and you cant touch the lava, so you have to find innovative ways to get around.
34)RANT ON FACEBOOK(Obviously only if you have a facebook account.
35)Walk like a velocoraptor. (Dinosaur)
36)Make a long list of alternative things you can do
37)Make a to-do list, then do everything on the list(Non-violent things.)
38)Skip instead of walk
39) Explosive lunges!
40)take out the trash
41) Speak in pig-latin.
42)Talk to me?

*the butterfly challenge, is everytime you want to cut, take a permanent marker, and draw a a butterfly somewhere. Also write the name of someone you love or care about for the butterfly  Now these butterflies are alive. You have too let them fade away naturally, without trying to wipe them off, because if you do wipe them off, you are killing your butterflies. But here is the thing. If you cut, burn,ect. Before your butterflies fade away completely, you killed your butterfly. Its fun and a good way too wean off hurting yourself.

:) Rose